My Home Birth with Baby D

My Home Birth with Baby D

One month ago, at exactly 12:00 A.M. our home was blessed with the arrival of our second child. This is his story.

Like so many good stories, however, his story actually begins with his older sister’s story. During my first pregnancy I stuffed my brains full of information about birth, breast feeding, midwives, and the like. Having taken a break from teaching, I suddenly found myself with more free time than I had ever had in my life. So I read a lot. I walked a lot. I did a lot of yoga. I was full-on in “baby mode” for those nine months.

But despite my diligence to “be ready” for the coming of that little babe, my labor was an intense and long 30+ hours that ended in a hospital transfer. Despite things veering off “the plan,” her birth was an important lesson and a beautiful event. (You can read all about that birth here).


This pregnancy was different from the beginning. I was busy, tired, and eager to “just be done” with the whole thing. (Sad, I know… and not something I’m proud of.) I didn’t pick up a single pregnancy book. I didn’t spend hours online researching natural birth. After everything “going wrong” the first time, I decided to just go with the flow. Besides, unlike last time, I was busier than ever.

Our family moved when I was 37 weeks pregnant. Trying to find renters for our condo while gearing up for the move was stressful to say the least. Unlike last time, I hoped the baby would stay put for a while. I wasn’t mentally prepared for labor. I was tired from moving, tired from our little girl who was consistently waking up at 5 A.M. each morning, and secretly terrified of having to endure another long birth.

Friday, August 2nd – Are you ready, mama?

I was one day shy of my 39 week mark. We had just finished lunch and were battling our little girl down for a nap… again. While I had been having contractions for several weeks, I noticed that they were starting to feel more “crampy.” Without mentioning anything to Tom, I downloaded an app for my phone and started casually monitoring contractions. 15 minutes apart. 10 minutes. 5 minutes. 8 minutes. 20 minutes. 5 minutes….  I began worrying as the inconsistency in the timing was just like last time.

“Shoot,” I thought. “I’m in for another long one.”

It was getting later in the afternoon and I worried that I wouldn’t be able to sleep through these contractions. I finally told my husband that things *might* be starting up. I also told him that I hoped the contractions would fizzle out and start again in the morning. I just wanted to sleep that night.

So we went to dinner hoping things would taper off.

In the process of getting our little C Monkey ready to leave, the contractions died down a little. It gave me hope that things would settle down for the night. But by the time we got to the restaurant, the contractions were back… although still inconsistent in their timing.

We got home, put C to bed and debated about calling the midwife, Sherri. Last time these contractions went on for nearly a full 24 hours before they became “serious.” But my amazing midwife told me early on that she wanted to be in the know. “We’re best friends. Keep me in the loop,” was her reminder.

Call the midwife.

Tom called her and gave her an update. Her advice: Take a warm bath and call her if things changed or progressed. I hopped into my tub… which gave a little relief, but not much. The contractions were getting more and more painful, but not really getting closer and closer in time. Tom called Sherri and she was on her way.

Just like last time I was feeling restless in the tub. I got out and changed into some “birthing clothes” and lied down on the floor in the living room. Tom came up and snuggled behind me, holding my hand and giving me some pressure on my back each time a contraction came. I began to cry a little… I was trying to mentally prepare myself for a long night, but was feeling a little deflated by the idea of another long labor. I was just so tired even before the contractions came. (My advice: Don’t move just before giving birth.)

It took Sherri a while to show up due to construction traffic. She arrived around 10 P.M., just in time for another contraction. She and Tom applied pressure point assistant which was AMAZING. Seriously, it relieved about 90% of the pain I was feeling. It gave me hope that I could do this. (It also made me wish Sherri had been there at my first birth. She was amazing.)


After that contraction Sherri asked if she could check my progress. I consented and prepared myself to hear something depressing like, “You’re at a 2.”

“You’re a 9+”

What!? In an earlier prenatal visit Sherri had told me that was her code for saying, “We need to get everyone here because you are ready to go!”

I was at a 10. I was ready to go. Immediately I found myself relieved, full of energy, hopeful, happy, and thankful. A ten. Maybe this birth would be different than last time.

It was the shift I needed.

I’m amazed how a tiny little sentence can change everything. Despite the fact that I had come to terms with my first birth, it wasn’t until that moment when Sherri said I was ready to go that I realized how much fear was still inside of me. Sure, I made it through my little girl’s birth. She made it. We were both happy and healthy. But the experience left a scar that didn’t reveal itself until just now. I feared another transfer. I feared something would go wrong. I feared being even more exhausted and that I wouldn’t be able to be the kind of mom I want to be.

But in that tiny little phrase, “you’re a 9+” I realized that my body had learned. I remembered that this time was different. I was different. This baby was different. The situation was different. And I remembered the important lessons that resonated from my first birth:

I was not doing this thing alone.

I was surrounded by skilled and loving midwives. I had my wonderful husband supporting me. I had a baby inside that was doing his part. And, as always, I had a loving Heavenly Father who was guiding the whole process.

Let’s push

With Sherri’s declaration that I was ready to go things moved quickly. She called the other midwife and student. They were at the home within a short time. I began pushing. It was a relief, and it was painful. I started on my side, moved to a birthing stool, and finally ended on my hands and knees. Despite the pain, he was progressing (such a relief after C’s birth!). And at exactly 12:00 A.M. on August 3rd, after about 4 1/2 hours of labor, our little Baby D was born. Unlike his older sister his umbilical cord was long. He was placed on my chest.

No transfer. No vacuums. No quickly cut cords.


Unfortunately, I did tear pretty badly… although in my head I was mentally prepared for that since I tore last time. It took a while to get stitched up, but I was in heaven. I was thrilled to hold this beautiful baby in my arms. I was thankful he was perfectly healthy.

Almost everything was different.

This pregnancy was a lot harder than my first… (which I blame mostly on too much stress). And almost everything was different about the birth, too. But the love, awe, and gratitude that I felt when it was done was the same. Love for this new baby. Awe for what the body can do. And gratitude for the helping hands that helped bring him into the world.


Welcome, Baby D!

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  1. Katherine @ Green Thickies

    Awww, what a great story. Congratulations on the birth of your little boy. I’m so glad it all went much better for you this time.

    I have just had a little boy too and have a toddler girl too. I also found the pregnancy much harder and just wanted it over with too. I planned a home birth the first time but didn’t work out on the day either so second time around I just went to hospital.

    Your little boy is so cute. I hope you are all doing really well. I found things so tough for the first couple of months but it’s a lot easier now after 3 months.

    Take care x

    1. Post author
      Robin Konie

      Thanks, Katherine! We’re adjusting pretty well, but looking forward to him regulating his sleep a little better. ;)

  2. Heidi

    So glad it went well this time! Congratulations!

    I too was unable to have the natural birth I wanted for my last babe because my placenta abrupted from my uterine wall. I had a horrible hospital birth filled with meds, harsh bright lights, insensitivity, and I had to pretty much throw my beloved birth plan out the window. I still am scarred from having my birth “stolen” from me 3 years later. Hoping to get it right with babe #3, I found a beautiful birthing center that I’m so excited about!

    Thanks for the inspiration Robin! :)

  3. Shelley


    You did it! I am so happy that this birth went so well. So happy for you and your little family. And so happy you got to have Sherri as your midwife –”It also made me wish Sherri had been there at my first birth. She was amazing.” I couldn’t agree more!

    With my second birth I too was able to let go of a lot of fear when my dilation was checked and I was told I was at a 9. Granted for different reasons, of course, but such a glorious moment and hurdle to reach in a birth!

    I hope your hangin’ in there as you juggle two!

    Sending lots of love from VA!

    1. Post author
      Robin Konie

      Thanks, Shelley. I’m so glad you introduced me to Shelley via your experience. She really is wonderful… as are you! Hope you are enjoying VA. :)

  4. Sarah

    So happy for you! I’m glad this birth was a better experience for you. Isn’t it amazing to feel that love all over again? He is beautiful!

  5. Rose

    Congratulations, Robin!! Isn’t homebirth just wonderful after a hospital birth? I found so much healing with my second son’s birth (his older brother was a hospital transfer, and just like you, even though everything was ok and we were both healthy, it left a scar!). You’ve got yourself a beautiful baby! <3

  6. Jaime

    Thank you so much for sharing your story! We are having a home birth end of October and I’m hoping it goes just as smooth as this one did! Congratulations!!

  7. Mimi

    What a beautiful, beautiful baby! May he grow in the love of his family to be a blessing to the world, too.

  8. Becki

    Your story made me choke up like a little baby! So happy for you all, he is such a precious gift from above. I love even more that you gave praise to God <3 Love your site! You rock! Thank you!

  9. Marney

    Robin! He is beautiful! And what a lovely birth story. So glad you got what you wanted. Hope I can be so lucky some day.

    1. Post author
      Robin Konie

      Thanks friend. I hope so, too. And I really believe your turn is coming soon. Lots of love.

  10. Briana

    Congratulations!!! You did it! From one homebirthing mama to another, that is seriously cool that you did it. I know what it’s like to want it so bad, your heart aches. So, hooray for you!! Your little guy is beautiful.

    I was pregnant right along with you this time. My daughter and your son almost shared a birthday. :) My daughter was stillborn on August 4th. But she was a beauty. And her birth was amazing despite the sadness. You’re right – pregnancy, birth, our bodies – they are INCREDIBLE.

    Congratulations again to your and your beautiful family. Hug that little baby tight!

    1. Post author
      Robin Konie

      Wow, Briana. Thank you for your kind words. I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m sure you daughter is in heaven looking down on you with so much love. Sending only the very best wishes and thoughts to you and your family. My heart goes out to you.

  11. Amber

    That 9+ announcement is amazing, isn’t it? I had that all three times before I expected. It was such a relief. Congratulations on the new baby born at home!

  12. Erica Hale

    Congratulations! He’s beautiful, and I’m so glad it went smoothly. Funny how different every birth is…I have 3, the first was 24 hours of hard labor, the second was 16, and #3 arrived in 45 short minutes! Enjoy those beautiful new-baby days, they are such a blessing :o)

  13. Meghan @ Whole Natural Life

    Congratulations, Robin! I loved your story. My daughter was born 3 1/2 weeks ago, so birth stories are certainly fresh in my mind. :) I had the exact same experience as you regarding 9+ centimeters. I had to be induced at 38 weeks because of pre-eclampsia, so my labor involved a lot of pitocin. When I started actually feeling the contractions, which was after my midwife broke my water to try to get things to progress, they were pretty much instantly really intense and only a minute or two apart. After 3ish hours of that I really didn’t think I was going to be able to make it, but when I found out I was almost 10 centimeters everything changed. I felt so encouraged and confident. I think Keira was born less than an hour later.

  14. Joanne

    Thank you for writing this so honestly, I also had a 36 hour labor that ended up in a C-section, it was a terrible experience. I read the books, got the midwife, doula, took hypnobirthing, everything I could to have a natural birth and am terrified of the next, it was such an awful experience.
    Reading this gives me hope, thank you, thank you!

  15. Ashley

    Oh you lovely dear. Thanks for sharing this. I sure hope my next delivery turn out like yours–and no emergency cesarean from preeclampsia complications and 36 hours of labor. : Congrats, and happy BIRTH day to you!!

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      Robin Konie

      Thanks, Ashley! I hope your next one is more peaceful, too. While I’m grateful for skilled physicians who can help out in emergencies, it’s always nicer when they can just come on their own, right? :)

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